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Contact Carolyn or Schedule an Appointment
Counseling with clients is by appointment only,
either in my Cherry Creek (Denver, CO office) by e-mail or by phone. My
office hours are Noon to 7 pm Tuesday through Thursday.
Most appointments are an hour (50 minutes), but you
may also schedule a half hour, and an hour and a half is recommended for
couples. Most people schedule appointments weekly, but others schedule
every other week, once per month or even “when needed.”
To schedule an appointment, a credit card is required
as all appointments must be paid for in advance.
Health Insurance
Coverage
Your health insurance may reimburse you a portion of my fees. I do not
take direct payment from the insurance company, as I am not a member of
the insurance groups. If your insurance is an HMO, it will not cover my
services at all. If your insurance is a PPO, I will file the insurance
for you and then you will be reimbursed by them. They often cover a
fourth or half of my fee once the deductible has been met. I'll be glad
to check your insurance in advance if you fax a copy of both sides of
your insurance card to 303-333-1889.
Cancellations
Cancellations must be made twenty-four (24) hours in
advance or your credit card will still be charged for that appointment.
Counseling by E-Mail
I will answer your e-mail questions for a flat rate
of $80. Questions should be not more than 100 words in length. Response
time will vary depending on my availability--anywhere from one to five
days. You must pay by credit card in advance in order for you to receive
a reply.
Click here to purchase Counseling by
E-mail
Once your transaction is approved, you will receive
and e-mail from Carolyn giving you the link to a secured email form.
Click here for a sample e-mail response.
 Counseling by Phone
Phone counseling is set up the same as if you were
coming to my office in Denver, except that you call in instead.
Appointments must be booked in advance by calling 303-333-1888, and be
paid for with a credit card at the time of booking. The number to call
the day of the appointment is 303-333-1889. Note that you pay the phone
charges during the actual appointment.
(Note: This phone line, 303-333-1889, is a phone
client and fax line. If you call anytime except for your scheduled
appointment, you will hear the fax beep.)
Again, like regular in-office appointments, any cancellations must be
made twenty-four (24) hours in advance or your credit card will be
charged for the appointment.
Visa, Mastercard and American Express accepted.
If you cannot afford
my fees...
Therapy Referral Source:
Try Westside Behavioral
Care. They are a referral source to a group of therapists who will take
your insurance directly, and you just have to pay the co-pay. They are a
mental health practice with over 30 locations that serve adults,
children, adolescents, couples and families in the Denver-Boulder
metropolitan area. You can call them in a crisis and usually get
immediate appointments, even on evenings and weekends. To make an
appointment or find out more about their services, call: 1-877-435-2017.
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or call
your health insurance for a referral
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or call your
county mental health clinic
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or call
United Way at 303-433-8900 to receive a referral for inexpensive or free
counseling.
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Q & A: She wants
sex, he doesn't.
Question:
I am engaged to be married to a
wonderful man! He's a loving family man with a secure
job, he loves me dearly and tells me often, and he
doesn't have a problem showing affection toward me in
public. The problem is when we go to bed. He likes to
hold me, but that's it. He NEVER takes the initiative to
make love - and many times when I do, I get turned down.
He says that the problem is not with me, but with
himself, and he does not know what it is. I'm afraid our
love-making will become non-existent after we are
married. What should I do?
Answer:
You are right to be worried about
your sex life before marriage since marriage seldom
makes passion grow stronger. You have more power now to
change the situation - before the commitment is final,
so stress that this must be resolved before you wed.
Tell him that you enjoy sex with him, but that his lack
of desire and passion makes you feel less desirable and
that it is a problem that won't go away. When he tells
you again that this is about him, not you, don't let him
get away with saying he doesn't know what the problem
is. Insist that he figure it out or you figure it out
together.
Here are some reasons he could be
having a problem:
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Of course, he could be gay.
Any signs?
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He could have a medical
problem and need treatment for something serious
or simply need one of the medications for this.
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The two of you may be spending
too much non-quality time together - which
causes sexual boredom. Regularly scheduled time
apart might cause him to miss you enough to get
charged up again.
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He may have the Madonna/whore
complex where he can't feel turned on to someone
he cherishes and sees as the mother of his children.
Talk to him about this and if it's true, get therapy
together to get him past it.
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Something you are doing (or a
resentment from the past) may be turning him off
and he's unable to tell you, i.e. you may be talking
to him like you're his mother - the key issue that
shuts men down sexually. Ask him, and work on it if
there is something.
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He may feel pressured. If
you wear teddies and pursue him sexually when he
feels non-sexual or inadequate, it will only make
the problem worse. Back off from commenting or
acting sexual toward him. Instead, dress and/or act
"indirectly" sexual.
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Many men start to see having sex
as another job that they are too tired to perform.
When you have sex with him, do you
require him to spend lots of time turning you on? If so,
tell him that you will turn the tables and he can just
lay there, or at least start participating more to turn
him on.
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Question:
I've been married three years and
cheated on my husband once ...two years ago. It was a
sexual encounter (I was drunk and I haven't been able to
tell him or get over it. Should I go on living with this
or go to my church? I am a bit old-fashioned and feel
like I have really sinned.
Answer:
Stop punishing yourself. Though I'm
not condoning your behavior, it's time to get past this
mistake and forgive yourself. Though you blame the
indiscretion on getting drunk, there is probably more to
it than that. It's common for a woman to feel anger at
her spouse and "act it out" by cheating. Think back to
what was going on at that time in your marriage. Were
you angry or upset about something? Try to connect any
feeling you had at the time to your behavior. Showing
self-understanding and self-tolerance, try to prepare a
defense for yourself--as if you would be presenting it
to your husband. See if you can convince yourself that
you're not a bad person without confessing to him or the
church. If not, then give him your well-thought-out
presentation, explaining what happened and why and how
much you care about him. Expect him to be angry, but
don't allow him to badger or punish you. Tell him how
you would handle it differently if it happened today.
Then you should be able to let it go!
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