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Stop blaming him or her, it takes two to have a bad
relationship.
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Recognize which role you play: the victim or
controller.
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Change your behavior, instead of trying to change
his (or hers).
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Use behavior modification instead of nagging to get
what you want.
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Recognize your mate’s insecurities.
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Become an equal partner by taking equal control and
responsibility
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Communicate your needs and recognize his (or her)
needs, then make a win/win deal.
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Negotiate a deal that works for both of you for each
problem area.
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Have consequences for broken deals, and pull back
when he/she doesn’t cooperate.